The effects of trauma and it's painful
are made boundlessly more difficult by the unwilled and unwanted experience
of aloneness in the suffering of the trauma and in it's aftermath of overwhelming emotional
experiences. Whether it's immediate, months or years later, the experience of aloneness
grips our inner world, makes it difficult to establish intimate and trusting connections,
and creates havoc as we try to regulate our emotions in reaction to the events in our lives.
Thus, it is the undoing of this aloneness that is the key therapeutic healing action for
the therapist and client. This begins and is maintained throughout the therapy so that
the therapeutic relationship is experienced as a safe haven and therapeutic base from which
to explore the painful consequences of trauma and the losses ensued. Facing, feeling and
dealing with the feared-to-be overwhelming emotional experiences, accompanied in this
processing through moment to moment attunement, engagement and guidance is the key to
my therapeutic action in working with trauma and its sequela."